What if the Wife of a Person is ill-mannered ?


What if the Wife of a Person is ill-mannered ? What shall an I deal Muslim do in this case ?

“It is reported that a man came to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radia Allahu anhu) to complain about his wife’s ill-temper. Hazrat Umar Ibn-Al-Khattab was one of the most powerful and influential Muslim caliphs. If you look back in the history of Islam the people who played a great role in spreading Islam the one prominent name comes in your mind will be of Hazrat Umar (R.A). Muslims were not able to offer Salah publicly due to fear of chiefs of Quraish. But when Hazrat Umar (R.A) accepted Islam and came in the circle of Islam believers came openly as they knew no one has dared to face Umar (R.A). He was the one who first suggested the Holy Prophet (SAW) that they should perform Salah in the Holy Kaaba, where the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) for the first time led the Muslim prayer. Due to such fearless proposal of Hazrat Umar (R.A), he was given the title of Al-Farooq by Hazrat Muhammad (SAW), which means “the one who distinguishes between the right and the wrong”.

While he was waiting for ‘Umar to come out of his house, he heard ‘Umar’s (R.A) wife scolding him and ‘Umar (R.A) quietly listening to her, and not answering her back. The man turned around and started walking away, muttering to himself: “If that is the case with ‘Umar (R.A) , the leader of the believers, who is famous for his uprightness and toughness, then what about poor me?!” At that moment, ‘Umar(R.A) came out of his house and saw the man walking away. He called him and said, “What is it you want of me, O man?” The man replied: “O leader of the believers, I came to complain to you about my wife’s bad-temper and how she nags me. Then I heard your wife doing the same to you, so I turned around, muttering to myself, ‘If that is the situation of the leader of the believers,then what about me?’”

‘Umar (R.A) replied, “O my brother, I bear with her because of her rights over me. She cooks my food, bakes my bread, washes my clothes, breast-feeds my child… and yet none of these are her duty; and then she is a comfort to my heart and keeps me away from forbidden deeds. Consequently, I bear with her.”

The man said,“It is the same with me, O leader of the believers.”‘

Umar (R.A) said: Then, O my brother, be patient with her, indeed this life is short.

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